101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think

Subconscious behaviors

Your brain can only perceive what it has known, so when you choose what you want for the future, you’re actually just recreating a solution or an ideal of the past. When things don’t work out the way you want them to, you think you’ve failed only because you didn’t re-create something you perceived as desirable. In reality, you likely created something better, but foreign, and your brain misinterpreted it as “bad” because of that.

Ergo, living in the moment is the only way to live. It's not some fancy ideal, it's the only way to live.

There is nowhere to “arrive” to. The only thing you’re rushing toward is death. Accomplishing goals is not success. How much you expand in the process is.

You needlessly create problems and crises in your life because you’re afraid of actually living it. The pattern of unnecessarily creating crises in your life is actually an avoidance technique. It distracts you from actually having to be vulnerable or held accountable for whatever it is you’re afraid of. You’re never upset for the reason you think you are: At the core of your desire to create a problem is simply the fear of being who you are and living the life you want.

You think that to change your beliefs, you have to adopt a new line of thinking, rather than seek experiences that make that thinking self-evident. A belief is what you know to be true because experience has made it evident to you. If you want to change your life, change your beliefs. If you want to change your beliefs, go out and have experiences that make them real to you. Not the opposite way around.

The past is not an unchangeable reality, at least internally, and it does not define you. Your perception of it is tinted with your own lens, and it changes as you grow. Experience is multi-dimensional, and there are many facets of each experienc we can choose to recall. What we choose is indicative of our present state of mind.

So many people get caught up in allowing the past to define them or haunt them simply because they have not evolved to the place of seeing how the past did not prevent them from achieving the life they want, it facilitated it. This doesn’t mean to disregard or gloss over painful or traumatic events, but simply to be able to recall them with acceptance and to be able to place them in the storyline of your personal evolution.

Most negative emotional reactions to other people are just you seeing a disassociated aspect of yourself.

Routine

Routine doesn't have to be boring. Your routine can be very un-routine. Your subconscious mind feels safe through repetitive motions and expected outcomes. What day-to-day life consists of doesn't matter - as long as you decide and stick to it. Routine is important because habitualness creates mood, and mood creates the "nurture" aspect of your personality.

Mood is a filter through which you experience life.

You must learn to let your conscious decisions dictate your day—not your fears or impulses.

Happines isn't how many things you do, but how well you do them.

When you regulate your daily actions, you deactivate your “fight or flight” instincts because you’re no longer confronting the unknown.